My wife has been cheating on me on and off for ten years. I can't deal amymore, tried for the kids but now I am depressed all the time. I have no one to talk to because we try to keep the truth from family and friends. I'm about to lose it.
I also kept it a secret but only for 6 months. I was torturing myself. I know you are doing what you think is right for your children, but what about you? You will do them no good if you just stay and keep accepting that behavior. They will find out someday and they'll think that kind of behavior is acceptable. And it isn't. You don't want your kids to live the same way...you want better for them. You deserve more and you are worth it. Please confide in someone. A brother? sister? Don't stop posting...you need some sort of outlet. You need to know you are not alone and your feelings are justified. I know it'snot easy, but don't take this burden on your own. Good luck, friend.
Do seek counseling if affordable, as both of you have created this situation & need to correct yourselves whether you stay together or not. I fear for the children as it sounds like no one is raising/guiding them through life by being good role models to follow & children learn what they live in (just a fact).
I hope you stay with us & consider other options for assistance instead of continuing the same cycle thats leading you nowhere.
This isnt all about hating women because of what you both created, theres WAY more going on here because of the behavior you both exhibit & will take time to work through, so you'll need all the support you can get.
Do join the sex addiction site here, Charlie (the manager) is very good with these types of issues & will recommend certain things for your consideration.
Hey, I'd really like to talk to other guys about this, whose wives or girlfriends have been unfaithful. If you guys could please email me a message I would really appreciate it.
That's sebastian24 at yahoo dot com