i told the 1st guy I had herpes
I was having a discussion with this guy I really like and have been dating...... he was say saying that he would never date a person with herpes or children and they he believes that we are "baggage".....as scared as i was, this made me angry, I said what about the people that get raped and have children or the people that have STD that got raped or got cheated on.....this people are all victims.....they never did any thing to deserve it....he went on to say that he not judging us but he would never date one because they have baggage.....this really piss me off.... i was in my therapist office and she said just tell him so you can get a reaction and its not like he can do anything bc he in a different state....so i told him the whole story of how I was cheated on my this guy and he gave me herpes knowing he was going to hate me but surprisingly...... he said "im sorry to hear that, the guy who did this to you should be ashamed and im not putting you down"...... so for all u new daters like me even if he seems like he is going to take it bad, he might take it better than u think.... thank u all the people that supported me threw all the tears and trying to get the confidence to finally tell a guy!!!!
please don't forget to chime in on the other posts here to help them! they are not as fortunate as you and are always in need of proof such as yours!
I have to admit before getting this virus there was no way I would ever concider dating a woman with any STD... You know. Than I got it and thought life just was not worth living anymore. I'm not suicidal or anything. I just lost faith, love and hope in everything but music and than picked up painting as well. It took a few years for me to get out of this funk. Now if you we're to ask me about how I was in the past I'd answer you by saying I was a complete asshole!!! It takes something like this to change, and I did for the better. No more sterio typing or judges people for things I don't understand. I think if someone loves you thay will over see the situation and stick with you. Otherwise you don't need them hanging around. I really wanna know the next person I fall in love with before giving all my love and disire too and than share my dreams and reach my goals with. I also don't expect to much from people now and days. Everyone seems to have an agenda too. So I know to take it slow get to know your next possible lover and go from there!!!
Good for you! Glad you told him. Let us know updates.