Death of my mom
My mom died exactly one month ago after battling breast cancer for three years. I'm single with no children at 35 because I spent so much time on my education career and traveling- but now along with my grief feel so sad age will never meet my children if I have then in the future. When my mom was diagnosed I moved to her state to be closer to her and my father leaving my support system behind. Right after getting here 3 yrs ago we found out my dad also has stage 4 cancer. I've gone through all the anticipatory grief and depression and now that my mother is gone its starting over again.. Thankfully my dad is doing really well but the strss and depression has really had a toll on me. I miss my mom.
I am sorry for your loss. And yeah, I understand the thought that children may never meet their grandmother is a sad one. I lost my mom too and share this concern with you. It is sad - it is a part of life, and I am sorry it has to be for you now. Just do the best you can. It gets easier with time.
hi,iam so so sorry for your loss of you mother,its is still a shock for you iam sure ,please look into a grief support group,hospice has a free one and thay are very good!nothing will ever take the place of your mother but when you do have kids one of thouse beautiful little faces will look up at you,and you will KNOW your mom is there with you,and part of your children,god bless and comfort you in your time of great need,lynn
I am in the same boat as you, my mom died a year ago after she battled the damage from several severe strokes. I am sure, like my mom was, yours was a lovely lady. The pain after losing someone that you ctedit for giving you your own life is tremendous. Out stories are very similar in that I am single and 39 without any kids of my own, I understand what you are going through. Remember, your mom hasnt just gone away, she has gone home... We will all get there one day, until then try to live your life the best you can, regret is the hardest part looking back... try not to beat yourself up. Life is hard enough without worrying about the what ifs. It sounds you did your best, thats all anyone can ask of you, including yourself. When my dad died in 2000, I was determined to live life so there would be no regrets... Sadly, there was nothing I could do to prepare for my moms passing despite how many times I turned over the feelings of wanting no regrets. The pain never stops... It only becomes tolerable. If you have faith, pray for mercy. I miss my mom so much, she was my best friend and when I found her and failed to revive her, part of me died with her. However, I know she is watching me, visiting me in my dreams and hopefully waiting for me in heaven. I am sure your suffering is unique to you, but you are not alone, even when you come home to an empty house...