My adult daughter verbally abuses me.


I have been verbally abused for most of my life. First by my father, now by my 40 year old daughter. I'm afraid to be in the same room with her because I never know what I might say or do to set her off. We can go for a few months getting along ok (that means me constantly walking on eggshells), then I will say or do something to make her explode on me. I also have been suffering from chronic pain for the past 10 years (neck, shoulders).
My husband is supportive of me, but refuses to stand up to our daughter - she has never said an unkind word to him. I have a loving relationship with my son, and my daughter-in-law adores me. I also have loving relationships with my grandchildren. I'm ready to give up on a relationship with my daughter, but don't know what to do about her 2 children. I don't want to lose them.
I'm very depressed, taking anti-depressants and seeing a therapist. It's not enough. I can't seem to function on a day-to-day basis. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Dec 11

Wow! Where do I start "twins" 30 years old and ever since my divorce from there father they never forgave me. They have been verbal abbusive since they were 13 years old. I have done everything for them to give them the life I would of liked.They think I do not love them for some strange reason. I just remarried for the 3 time and they seemed very happy for me. But one of my daughters just got married in Sept. and now she is pegnant and has not returned my texts or phone calls in a month. The one that is pregnant is a doctor and other one is a LPC Counselor. I could go on and on about them. The mental and physical abuse has been going on for years. I have tried everything but just like another lady said we have to walk on eggshells around them so they dont explode. Whatever they needed from me as a mother I guess I could never give to them. Help,Help,Help....................................They always said I was selfish.

Kimmy2012's picture
Dec 11

Dear vd162,

I posted some articles on verbal abuse here and I hope it will help you.

All the best.

sad123's picture
Mar 19

I have the same problem with my only adult daughter. I have been depressed for 6 months, cried and smoked myself into COPD because of this awful feeling. When I came out of my Depression, I put this problem in Gods hands.

To get through this daily, I keep in mind, I was a great single parent and I realize, it is not me that have the problem, it is MY DAUGHTER WHO HAS A PROBLEM WITH ME...for that, I will not go to Therapy for her problem.


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