Mother in law with dementia
This is my first time joining any type of support group. My mother in law has lived with us for over 3 years. When she came to live with us she didn't show any signs of the illness. About 1 1/2 years here we started to see sudden changes she's 67 so we assumed it might be due to age. Forgetfulness is common in older folks. Didn't think much of it. 2 my husband and I started to see a more frequent change. . He took her to the doc and was diagnosed with dementia. She doesn't earn enough to live on her own I work out of the home so I spend most of the time dealing with the illness. What I'm trying to understand is the illness the everyday stuff she seems to have a problem remembering but other things like charity work she doesn't forget. I've become very bitter about the whole situation because maybe I don't understand the disease. I try to be patient but it doesn't seem to work. My husband is not always home to see what I see and I feel if I mention every little thing to him he will just get defensive. I'm loosing patience and tolerance I keep asking myself if it were my own parent would I react the same. Last week she told me she was going to feed the homeless with neighbors today however I've asked her over and over again to not use the 1 dog dish for water and yet she still does it after I've place a note at the bowl. She was always a sweet lady I just don't know how to deal with this. Any suggestions and advise would be greatly appreciated. I've started to leave notes at designated places around the house. Any support anyone could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Please, ask her doctor to recommend the place where you can get the information on how to understand and to deal with this situation. Also, this site has a good information regarding dementia. Wishing you all well. God bless you.