why does the majority of society hate fat people?
I dont understand why people are so mean to bigger people. Whether I'm out in public. Or online. People are so cruel it's barbaric. I mean the hatred for someone bigger that these people have is disturbing. And I'm not gonna lie my feelings get hurt. I went to a bar a few months ago to see a buddy of mine play in her band, and I live in a small college town, and there are mostly thinner people at the bar I go to. And people are so cruel to me it's ridiculous. I don't say anything to anyone and I don't look at anyone. Im just there to listen to the band but I can't even do that. I hear all kinds of fat.names. And sometimes a fat name mixed with a racial slur. She invited me to see her band play next friday and I really want to go because i love listening to them. But I'm terrified of what I know people are going to say. I know they're drunk, but the truth comes out when you're drunk. I havent been out of the house in 2 months, and I just want to go out and enjoy myself. what should I do?. I'm the absolute worst at ignoring people. Any help? So far my plan is just to get drunk so it'll be easier
If that's you in your photo you look gorgeous. Don't let anybody else get you down. Believe me, I know how you feel I am big too, but I try to love my curves. As long as you look good when you go out and wear clothes that highlight your assets, just don't pay attention to anybody and a lot of people out there also happen to find our bodies beautiful. Also, don't use the bottle to cope with your problems, just be you and you'll see you'll be happier.
i blame media. i was just talking about this with my cousin who is 13 and had gone to the beach...he was commenting on how this woman looked terrible because she was older and in a bikini. so i ask him does she really look that bad or are you stuck on the tv/magazine images that tell you what's beautiful? i let him know that 1. magazine girls are "photoshopped" and they all pretty much look the same if you notice. 2. tv only certain people that fit in a certain boxed criteria are picked to be on tv. All these things are bombarding you with their own opinion about what is beautiful. you are not even being given a chance to think for yourself. he seemed to understand which i was happy about. Reality is we all come in different sizes and shapes. We are all beautiful. But when we have members of our society that subscribe to media definition of beauty and in addition to that do not have any home training about not being a bully and making fun of people you get jerks like that in the bar. And to be honest with you those guys are probably full of insecurities and mental problems. I mean why make fun of anyone? What do you get out of it? Attention drawn away from yourself--your buddies are not making fun of you b/c you found a scapegoat to victimize.
I know it hurts and it would hurt me too. But they are the ones with the problem. Don't let them stop you from doing what you want to do.
an aside: you know i went to greece and there were so many big women on the beach in bikinis I was shocked!!! b/c here in the states big women are too afraid to do that b/c of these damn media images that say we are not beautiful. everyone on the beach were having fun. no one seemed to be making fun of anyone else. everyone was just minding their own business and enjoying. I loved it!! I swear if I could find a job in Greece and of course if the country were in a better financial situation i would move there. btw i am not greek. it was awesome how different people live there. not slaves to american media and definitions.
but still i know i need to lose weight. i weighed myself this morning and saw the number in horror. i have to do something for me and not for anyone else--for my health and for some nice clothes b/c you know a lot of stores dont have nice clothes for big girls.
oh btw a lot of guys do like big girls! i find a lot of times when i dress and walk like i love myself i do get hit on. my depression among other things and definitely my broke behind keep me from doing that on a consistent basis.
anyway all the best!!!
I feel exactly the way you do. I am overweight and people make fun of me constantly. I basically never go outside of my house it's crazy. All I can say is that you shouldn't listen to other people telling you what they think you are. You know who you are and you should love yourself. I hope you will stop listening to other people and what they think and start listening to yourself, the you that makes you happy and makes you feel beautiful and special. I too am trying to fix my life and not let my weight, depression and the horrible things people say get to me. No matter what know that you are not alone.