3year old with PDD who throws constant tantrums and liikes to strike me during them.
How do you appraoch the situation in a positive way where it can defuse the situation without having a meltdown yourself as a parent cause over time it does happen to me I have at least 1 meltdown a month where I just feel like I am about to explode! I am extremely patient and understanding I deal with this everyday but sometimes the tasks can become so difficult that I feel almost incompetent.
Hello Liana's Mom,
Welcome to SG. You will find many wonderful people here who will support you.
We can't all relate exactly to what you are dealing with, but most of us have struggles of our own. so we can relate in that way.
Have you considered meditation or yoga? That helps many people reduce their stress level. Another way is to go for a walk alone. The exercise will increase blood flow and oxygen to the brain which also reduces stress.
I'm sure others here will give you better suggestions, but those ones work for me.
Smile, God Loves You and So Do I!
I'm new here so I'll introduce myself briefly...My name is Kristin and I have 2 children. My son is 4 and autistic. He went through a time where his tantrums did get violent...towards himself, me, and adults in his various therapies. I think it is completely normal to get overwhelmed and frustrated. I personally have locked myself in the bathroom to cry, I call it giving myself a time-out.
Staying positive and productive are just the only answer. I've learned to keep telling myself that he doesn't know what he is doing, in my head, as it happens. I've also learned that the best way to get out of your head, is to get into your body. So I go to the gym everyday, I do yoga and pilates at home, and I have positive mantras I refer to. My motto is "we keep our heads up, we stay positive, and we move forward always"....and of course "let go,let God". I hope this helps, I apologize if it doesn't. It canbe hard but try to remember you are doing a great job mama!
I provide intensive, in-home workshops to families to solve problems just like yours. One of the first things to do is to track the behavior in some way. Is there a time of day it happens more often? Are there any warning signs or specific triggers? Check especially for any possible physiological triggers like hunger, constipation, or tiredness.
If you can identify any triggers or patterns to the behavior, your first line of defense is to attempt to prevent the behavior from occurring by finding those triggers and 'changing the channel' before the behavior occurs.
I can definitely give more help if you want to contact me through my site.
It will get better! Children with autism can learn and increase their social and communication skills.