someone please answer.
I was in a relationship with a guy for five years. I always knew he was very selfish and was not a great guy, and I was raised in a loving environment so I knew how a man should treat a woman and knew he wasn't it, however I got hooked. He cheated on me multiple times, used me more times than I can count, was selfish, and other typical narc behavior. I'm not trying to bash narcisstic people because I am good friends with many of them, just him in particular really changed me for the worst. long story short we broke up officially four months ago. However we have continually been "friends with benefits" while I had hopes that would change again. however it obviously did not and he got very mean towards me and even worst than when were in a relationship. I got devalued and discarded nearly every week. This last time however is different. I am receiving extreme silent treatment. He will not answer anything for about three weeks now. I have "blown up" his phone, which I know is very immature and wrong of me to do, and I feel terrible about it but I just want a response or explanation on what I did wrong this time to deserve this so I can maybe fix it. I know this is very selfish and wrong of me but my ideal likings would be if for once he contacted me and I was able to not answer this time. If I was able to turn him down for once. will this ever happen? Will he ever speak to me again or did I blow it so bad this time that he is gone for good even though I am unsure of what I did? is silent treatment like this forever? I'm sorry for sounding pathetic and desperate. I just want answers.
I have been with men like this and they love the power they have over you..I have leaned NO matter how hard it is for me and NO matter how I much I love someone I will not make them a priority when they make me just an option..We know when this is happening and it is up to us as individuals to make a choice to change our journey..I know I have and we all have the power to do the same... The 3 A's are the key to recovery..Awareness, acceptance then action..Good luck to you!!
talking to women's abuse groups/hotlines is very helpful. they give you free 24/7 counseling and never tell you what to do, never push. good people to talk to if you feel that you want to leave but don't know how. it took me years to have the strength/courage to separate from my abusive husband. so many of us don't even realize we are being abused. abuse doesn't only mean getting punched in the face, there are many forms.
Oh ladies...My heart and soul goes out to you...I was abused for many years and it was the hardest thing in the world to break free from..I mean the hardest..It was like a silent gas that just caught me..I had to physical signs so not a single soul knew but, I knew and my kids knew..After being away from him now I suffer from the most horrible PTSD ..My children suffer from all things to and if I only could change it I would..I was raised in this like this so, I did not know better..I know better now and I share every where I go..NO one can ever make anyone leave as it is totally up to that person..All we can do is love and support..I try to teach before anyone gets into to that relationship..I don't care where I am I always will teach and share with all as abuse is the most horrible way to live and most are not aware of the signs.God bless all that live in and around abuse and may you day come where you can live in peace!!!