Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
Anyone have a mother who is a narcissist? I've been dealing with the pian of this situation all my life. Unless you have been there no one would believe that a mother would treat her only child the way I was treated. Is there anyone else who has experienced this kind of life? I would love to hear from someone who shares my pain.
I agree that stress an cause cancer (& a lot of other illnesses). My husband's sister for decades accused my husband of being a molester. If you knew him...you'd think, umm, no. I've seen her in action. I've seen her lies and manipulations. The entire family caters to her. You can't say anything to her. I became very tired of her native prejudice comments towards me and gently told her which resulted in her threatening suicide in our home two days before a repeat CT for my husband. Then his other sister joined in on the attack. This kind of thing literally has been going on for decades with them. It ended when they started threatening lawyers and police (they wanted their father to die who had had a stroke and got it in their crazy heads that I somehow, as no one, not a next of kin, got their father to sign papers to prolong his life which would mean they wouldn't get what was in his will). I explained to them that I had no legal power to do such a thing but at almost midnight, we were being threatened. So I called the police.
We now have no contact with them. Insane and stupid people.
April, thank you for bringing this here. It helps to see this here. My relationships...I'm like geez, I'm KILLING myself for you here! But...people like this...they don't care.
Sorry, I don't understand the "Expect the worse" part? It seems to me that NPD's expect the best?
I also only make friends where I'm only caretaking. I just noticed the dates of these posts lol. I hope you have found friends, REAL friends.
I don't believe people when they say something good about me. I think...what do they want from me? And usually it isn't long before I find out what they want.
My two best friends who were really wonderful died 9 mos apart several years ago. My third best friend (my husband) has stage 4 cancer. Another best friend of mine who we live far from also has stage 4 cancer. I believe/d what these people say/said.
I used to think that most people were "good" deep down inside. I'm starting to reconsider that.
We're pretty much in isolation now. The demands for our slavery never let up with my c-spine fracture and my husband's cancer. We have very little to no support and have been supporting all kinds of people in different ways. Feeding people. Waiting on them. If we don't do this, we're awful people and I just can't take the abuse anymore, it's extra hard with what we're currently going through so we just rarely deal with people socially.