After 15yrs he tells me he is schizophrenic

Hi - I am the husband of a schitzophrenic who got schizophrenia about 19 years ago with the birth of our first child. So I can indeed empathise with you. However I would like to say that it is not your husband's fault he has schizophrenia. I would suggest (presuming he is not in a psychotic state) having a good heart to heart talk with him, whereby you try and plan what is best. Tell him that you support him and want to give him support, but you also want him to support you and the family as much as he can. Part of that is that he must stay on medication. Both of you must walk the talk. Best of luck!

cg, know your post was back in June & Alleen has given you some goot advice.

All my strengths.

April

Hey Cg,
I just saw your post, but I hope that you are doing well. We are all here for you.

I hope your hubby is getting the help he needs.

Keep talking hun
Love you
MG x

cg- I am single and prefer it that way. Has you husband been on medications to help with his problems. I have ahd schizophrenia for about 20 years but until the last 3 really did not know it I thought I just struggled with certain things. But i know once i told people around me whether I judge myself so harchly for having it or the fact they changed (which they did to a point) but I feel like they turned on me. It is not easy to have the three kids and the one with problems and then have to face this with your husband. I hope you can find the strength to get thru this rough time and find a way to move on. Sorry too that you feel like you ahve lsot your dreams for the family and also for your husband. Keep in mind it is an illness and for some and can be controlled to a certain degree with the right medications and support.

K9

Hey k9,
I think you are amazing to go through what you have gone through over the last 3 years, it must have been such a shock. I know that some would react differently and not as you'd hope to the news but I hope the people you are closest too remained so.

Are you on the right medications? I hope so hun. I think they make such a difference. They certainly have with me and my depression...they've given me back a part of my life I thought was missing.

Keep talking hun,
This is a fantastic place for support,
Love to you
Moongal x

no the few I thought i could kind of count on since we have worked together for 10 years one and 20 years the other would understand some, but wish i would have never told them due to they really did an about face on me. Other than that really no one else I can count on except one person and he has told me he is there as long as I do not mind hearing what he thinks, and I have no problem with that as long as it is honest.
There is a medication that works well for me but can not afford it so on a pill I have been on for about a yr. it helps but not to the point I would like. Thanks moongal
I keep telling myself if I can make it tell Oct. I can get back on the one pill due to by that time there will be a generic out for it. Just not sure If I can make it to that point. Not sure if I ahve the fight I need to have to get there.

K9

Hey k9,
Well we all believe you have the fight in you. You are strong and confident, you obviously are a very capable and competent worker. So whatever else helps along with the pills you are taking like mental exercises just keep at them.

I'm sure it can be such a scary illness at times and you need all the support you can get, so it's such a shame about your other colleagues. Do you talk to your children much?

I hope this other person isn't saying anything negative to you because that is something you could really do without. Having schizophrenia, is difficult enough without someone being negative to you or you feeling in anyway judged.

How are you feeling today
Love to you
Moongal x

moongal- no kids I ahve always been on my own.
The one person that is open and honest with me I respect that. Sure some times things are hard to hear, but the way he tells me it seems ok, plus the fact he has never judged me and after only knowing me for 2 years he was the one that told me I needed to talk to some one because things just did not add up to him. So with out him I would have never been diagnosed and on meds, to help some. He does not beat around the bush with me and like Isaid some times it is hard to hear what he says but I am also not afraid to talk more in debth about it with him either. He is a safe person and a good guy.
It is pretty much all the other people I am around that do the judging of me but never talk to me or ask me what is going on. They avoid me like the plague!

K9
How are you doing lately?

dear k9, how goes things for you and your hubby now? i can relate and if you are still out there i will share my story about my disabled twins and hubby too. it is a tough road to hoe, but the Lord will strengthen you and guide you and give you the loving care you need for those three little ones. let us know how you are and if you are interested in my support. there is a lot of grief.

It is not my hubby but a very good friend. I have been struggling with the schizophrenai lately and then recently diagnosed with Cancer so having a hard time and not much wanting to talk to much these last few weeks, just was trying to find out information on the cancer. Some times I do want to throw in the towel and say I am done. I know when I have been beat and hell if this was not being beat not sure what is at times. I am still fighting though and trying to stay as positive as possible. It is jsut hard you like to get one thing fixed before somehting else goes wrong. As for my schizophrenia I am on meds. but waiting tell zyprexa comes generic due to that pill worked the best for me but it runs way way to much to do. SO thought ok hold out a few months and it will be there then this damn cancer showed its ugly face. And yes stanisz would love to hear your story. If you want to email me you can too at K9trnr247@sbcglobal.net

K9