How can I get over someone I Love that doesn't Love me back anymore?

Men can be scum sometimes & so can women & I know its been awhile since you wrote this & I hope your figuring some things out a lil better now & don't look at FB, so you can focus on you. There are reasons why we hook up w/the people that we meet, please try & look within for the answers cause you'll find the answer & please come back & talk w/us, we're here for you if & when you feel like talking/venting/sharing/guidance/opinions

Take care of you

April

I been with my bf for almost 2 years, i know that I have been in love with him and only recently he told me he loved me. I believe that this has come out bc he has told me that he has a little girl he juss found out about with a girl that is only 20 yrs old. It hurt me a great deal bc I found out he was walking to the park with her and his alleged "child". I found out bc my friend saw them and took a pic and sent it to me, they looked as though their portraying a happy family, in reality he had a child when the mother was a child, that would mean he hookd up with her when she was 15. I dont know if this will help you, bc I feel as though I luv him, i did for a long time, and I always felt he didnt love me. Now he is saying he does and I think he is just saying what I wantd to hear for a long time. I wish I could just fast forward to find out if I am wasting my time and life on someone who truly doesnt love me. Just know that u can find ur true soulmate, while I am sitting here with him wondering what our future holds, im scared that I wasted all this time with someone I thought I would be with, when in reality I could be out there waiting for him....hope i can help...good luck

Amy

Don't worrie things happen for a reason I know it hurt right now but things will fall into place. Sometimes we think we found the perfect men but don't worrie he is out there.

LOVE ANA

Hey Phoenix,
I am so sorry about your pain. I understand it and I am truly empathetic to it. You sound like sucha wonderful person I know this is such a cliche thing to say but time heals. Give your heart a chance to mend, this will happen. Try not to think about what is happening with him and focus on you.

Say sentences like I will do this tomorrow. Maybe take up a new activity and go out meet up with friends more. I do understand there is a very raw wound there, but this will heal, just give it time. And take care of yourself and be good to yourself. And keep talking it out and keep coming back here for support.

You are in my thoughts
Moongal x

I'd listen to all the good support/advice here & dont let anyone ever live rent free in your mind.....if one only knew how much THEY did not even think of how your feelings are then.......think about it.

Take care of you

April

Hi Phoenix92, I am really so very sorry for what you are going through. I am hoping that the pain has eased a bit and that you have been healing in a positive way by now. I think that the key here is acceptance, sometimes very unfortunately these things don't make a lot of sense. How can I feel so strongly for someone and they don't feel the same way? It is difficult, but the only thing that I can recommend to get you out and away from this pain is to 1) completely remove him as your facebook friend and never check in on his page, 2) start to look ahead to your incredibly bright future, and 3) thank this guy for walking away so that the right one can walk into your life. I promise that one day, you will look back and see the total positive of this entire situation. Its better that this happened now, rather than having been dragged on for any longer.

Wishing you all of the very best and sending you tons of positive energy!

Thanks everyone...time is healing...i've gotten better enough to where I just slightly miss him every once and a while....and also accepting it wasn't meant to be...I still care for him enough that I just want him to be happy and am looking forward to when I can be too

Hi Phoenix92, thank you so much for the update, that's really great news. I think that it's so normal to still have lingering feelings and to most especially care for someone who you once share a special relationship with. The key here is that you are looking forward and moving on to a wonderfully beautiful future. I know that you will have so much happiness and fulfillment in your life.