for the first time i feel i do not want to go on

I am sorry for what you are going through. Maybe try checking out this book. It is awesome!

http://www.amazon.com/Mars-Venus-Starting-Over-Practical/dp/0060930276/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1271663875&sr=8-2

Your pain is very real right now and it is human nature to be hurting. That just has to take its course and it takes as long as it takes. It is what it is.

But please know that things will feel better. YOu just have to take care of you and work on healing right now.

Please forgive any assumptions i"m making here, but you have to remember that if everything was 'perfect', it would not have ended this way. You also have to remember that your relationship with this person started VERY fast and ended VERY fast. it was not given the proper chance to grow and take root and build a foundation. Sounds like you did not know eachother for very long before you moved in together and that is usually not the healthiest situation. I know several people who moved in together after knowing their significant other for a short time and those relationships also did not end well.

Slowing things down and giving eachother a chance to let your feelings grow at a healthy pace may have given more insight and built a better foundation for a long term relationship.

I hope I"m not making you feel worse. Just trying to help point out the reality that maybe there is a reason that things didn't work out right now. Maybe you both didn't know eachother as well as you thought and you have to also wonder why someone is moving on so quickly. I don't know all the details of your relationship, but I do know that things happen for a reason and sometimes we can't always see the reason in the beginning. It could be a blessing in disguise. Trust me.

I lost the person whom I thought was the 'love of my life' and it was VERY devastating for me. I also thought I wouldn't be able to go on but its amazing the people whom I have met since and the lessons I have learned that I would not have learned if he hadn't left my life. And I also accept that God had other plans for me that did not include this man and that he ended up with someone better suited for him.

I am finally at a point where I believe that God is preparing someone better suited for me and in the process I am growing as a person and learning new things about myself. It took me some time to heal and get to that point though.

SO we don't always know WHY things happen, but all we can do is think of WHAT we can learn from this and try to move forward a day at a time.

PLEASE hang in there. The pain is still fresh, but please believe that time will give you that hope for life again.

Oops, here is the link for that book again.

http://www.amazon.com/Mars-Venus-Starting-Over-Practical/dp/0060930276/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1271663875&sr=8-2

Hi first time broken, I am sorry for what you are going through. But to get through this you have to go through it. I know it is not easy but it is better to find out now before you got married. We are powerless over others and what they say, think and do. She has moved on and so you have to also. Everyone deals with things different. You can get help but you are also going to have to help yourself some. With time, it will get better. Feel free to continue to share with us. We are here for you also. ((((hugs))))

Here is the link to the book G.L.U. posted since it looks like the link is broken:

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0060930276/bpo01-20

Bluidkiti!

Thank you SO much for posting the correct link for me! I just couldn't seem to get it pasted right! THANK YOU! You are a gem!

Stay busy,and realize that it is better to have a break now at this point instead of after married and co mingling finances and then all the messy divorce stuff,whew you dodged a bullet my friend.send the lady some flowers along with a thank you card.And remind yourself that This too shall pass.keep looking if Miss Right don't come along,go for Miss right now and you will be surprised how quickly the heart can mend.Been there.done that and I got the Tshirt.