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mama's got a new family, and im not in it.

My mom is a lesbian, I was an accident baby and am not supposed to be here.
Everytime she gets a new girlfriend I have to deal with the fact that my mom chooses
Her girlfriends family over me always it never fails.
I'm always forgotten or left out.
She never spends time with me, she barely talks to me
Why does she do it? Am I unwanted? Unlovable?
I can't take it anymore, I stay in my room and never leave.
Why can't my mom understand how bad this hurts every new girlfriend
Them and her children always comne first, its like I'm invisible.

By April on Fri, 06-25-10, 13:07

First of all YOU are meant to be here a true blessing & you are not alone, there are alot of people that feel this same way, its been going on for generations. Second of all this is your moms way of NOT understanding HERSELF & what shes really doing & causing/creating in life & has NOTHING to do w/you at all. I'm soooo sorry for the way its making you feel & if you ever want to talk/vent about it, please do so, trust me one day she will really feel the impact of her actions & pain it caused on you her wonderful,beautiful,loving daughter. My mother did this exact same thing but it was w/men & 4 different marriages, I look back & truly think if she stopped for a moment & looked at her wreckage & how it affected all 4 of us children maybe things could have been better & to I realize that she really did not have anyone to help guide her when she was growing up.
So do try & not let this eat you alive or act out & do something stupid cuz boy I sure did & it cost me dearly in life & I eventually learned, talk when you want to we are here for you......

April

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By domestic on Sun, 07-18-10, 03:52

hon

u are a wanted and loved child its just that your mum has lost her way and defines herself by those she chooses to call "partner"

as u get older u will find many others who lived childhoods like yours, although it sucks it could b worse.

at least u are self reliant and that is a good thing for anyone to have, u have time to reflect who and what u are and that will stand u in good stead as u get older and move on to relationships

as for your mum she deserves pity and compassion that she is unable to find herself.

so dont forget to come back and chat

as always

loving thoughts and positive vibes

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By ANA on Thu, 07-22-10, 14:03

I am not sure why your mom would do something so sad and treat you that way. Maybe she dosen't realize what she is doing to you. maybe you need to to sit down and talk to her and explain what goes through your mind and your feelings.
You are not a accident don't ever feel that way. You were ment to be in this world to change other peoples lifes and your own. I have 2 children myself and sometimes it's hard for me to understand what they want but they are only 7 and 6.
I just want to let you know that you are not alone and we all care please if you ever need to talk to anyone I am here don't ever feel like no one cares because I do =)

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