Giving up all hope

I also feel your pain my wife and I are both 31 years old and we have been trying to concieve for over 3 years we have been through all the tests you have been through I have had a vericocile procedure etc and two inseminations and nothing. The only option for us is IVF and 20,000 I know this is a sore subject in our marriage and hurts us both. the holidays are also very hard for us she is Italian so children are very much a part of the family and watching all the newborns and toddlers walking around almost brings me to tears. I also feel weird about adoption and it isn't cheap or stress free either. I have also wondered why all these low life people who have no earthly buisness having childen who abandon them and kill them are fortunate enough to have children but good people such as us can't. I will pray for you and hope God will bless you with a child soon. you are not alone

I am so glad I found this message! I am having the same feeling where I am mad at G-d. I'm starting to feel very upset and my faith is lacking a lot, I just don't understand why G-d would cause so much hurt and pain to people who would do anything for a child, and yet those who abuse their children or "accidentally" got pregnant aren't grateful! Definitely understand!

hello my name is christine i am in the same situation as you are and am so confused as to why. like you i keep trying to make escusses as to why God would do this but its getting harder and harder to believe. My sister in law doesnt even like her kids and she is now pregnant with a 4th just for attention and free gifts and food.. i cant even stand to hear about her anymore, i want to stay positive but come on..

As much as you don't want to go to a fertility doctor...I think that if you go and at least get tested so you know where the problems are, you then can try to fix those problems through natural herbs and whatnot....But if you don't know what the problem is you won't know what to do to fix the problem.

I am 32 about to be 33 and my husband is also 32 yrs old. We've been married for 12 yrs and have struggled with becoming pregnant the whole time. At first we thought it might be my husband as well, but we found out that it was my hormones. We finally made the decision to try IVF......we got lucky because our insurance covers it at 80%.

Hang in there. And don't be afraid of doctors. At least find out what the problem is and tell your doctor your feelings about trying to solve the issues with natural medicine and not chemicals. They can probably point you in the right direction.

Good luck!

Hi,

I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I grew up in a family of six kids and my husband also comes from a family of six kids. But still all I ever wanted to be was a mother and it kills me that some people that you see on TV (Casey Anthony) and others in life can have children so easily and not even care about them and then here we are that we would do anything for a child and we cannot have one. I agree you husband should be tested to make sure a problem does not exist on his side. If there is it is usually a pill they take. We have to go through so much with the treatments that it amazes me that our husbands think it is so easy for us.

My husband and I have been trying to have a baby since we got married almost 14 years ago. We have been through three fertility specialists and did everything (insemination, oral drugs, shots, etc) we could but not IVF because we just could never afford it. We are still saving for it and I am 39 now. So I have the age thing to worry about now.

When I say we have done everything we have, I have bought fertility kits off the internet (bad move don't buy anything from the internet), and that clear plan easy fertility computer that has actually had great success not with me though but when you research the reviews I would recommend it to anyone. The computer tracks your cycle and and prove you ovulate which will help the fertility specialist if you go to one. You can get it easily from any drugstore. Please give it a try. Most people say it works within 6 attempts. Right now we are doing the turkey baster trick modified though. It may be too much information and if so I am sorry but I use a push syringe without the needle of course, and then put in a menstrual cup so that I can lay there with nothing coming out for a half hours or so. This has not worked either for us. But right now I am desperate because we have not saved enough for IVF and to even talk to a infertility doctor is about $1000 your first visit (insurance does not cover this for us) The doctors have always said that we had unexplained infertility and that there was no reason for me not to become pregnant but I still have not.

If we ever get the money for IVF I know we will have one shot and it will be our final attempt. Then I will have to give up my dream because adoption is twice the cost of IVF easy and if it took us this long to and we still do not have enough for that then how can we afford to adopt. And i would adopt without hesitation if I could. My dream as is my husbands is to have a baby, but it does not have to be genetically mine.

I am going to post an email I got that helps us cope a little especially around the holidays. I just have to find it. But if you ever want to talk, email me through this site and I will give you my personal information.

Thanks, and Good Luck

Ann

Hi,

I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I grew up in a family of six kids and my husband also comes from a family of six kids. But still all I ever wanted to be was a mother and it kills me that some people that you see on TV (Casey Anthony) and others in life can have children so easily and not even care about them and then here we are that we would do anything for a child and we cannot have one. I agree you husband should be tested to make sure a problem does not exist on his side. If there is it is usually a pill they take. We have to go through so much with the treatments that it amazes me that our husbands think it is so easy for us.

My husband and I have been trying to have a baby since we got married almost 14 years ago. We have been through three fertility specialists and did everything (insemination, oral drugs, shots, etc) we could but not IVF because we just could never afford it. We are still saving for it and I am 39 now. So I have the age thing to worry about now.

When I say we have done everything we have, I have bought fertility kits off the internet (bad move don't buy anything from the internet), and that clear plan easy fertility computer that has actually had great success not with me though but when you research the reviews I would recommend it to anyone. The computer tracks your cycle and and prove you ovulate which will help the fertility specialist if you go to one. You can get it easily from any drugstore. Please give it a try. Most people say it works within 6 attempts. Right now we are doing the turkey baster trick modified though. It may be too much information and if so I am sorry but I use a push syringe without the needle of course, and then put in a menstrual cup so that I can lay there with nothing coming out for a half hours or so. This has not worked either for us. But right now I am desperate because we have not saved enough for IVF and to even talk to a infertility doctor is about $1000 your first visit (insurance does not cover this for us) The doctors have always said that we had unexplained infertility and that there was no reason for me not to become pregnant but I still have not.

If we ever get the money for IVF I know we will have one shot and it will be our final attempt. Then I will have to give up my dream because adoption is twice the cost of IVF easy and if it took us this long to and we still do not have enough for that then how can we afford to adopt. And i would adopt without hesitation if I could. My dream as is my husbands is to have a baby, but it does not have to be genetically mine.

I am going to post an email I got that helps us cope a little especially around the holidays. I just have to find it. But if you ever want to talk, email me through this site and I will give you my personal information.

Thanks, and Good Luck

Ann

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Hi,

I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I grew up in a family of six kids and my husband also comes from a family of six kids. But still all I ever wanted to be was a mother and it kills me that some people that you see on TV (Casey Anthony) and others in life can have children so easily and not even care about them and then here we are that we would do anything for a child and we cannot have one. I agree you husband should be tested to make sure a problem does not exist on his side. If there is it is usually a pill they take. We have to go through so much with the treatments that it amazes me that our husbands think it is so easy for us.

My husband and I have been trying to have a baby since we got married almost 14 years ago. We have been through three fertility specialists and did everything (insemination, oral drugs, shots, etc) we could but not IVF because we just could never afford it. We are still saving for it and I am 39 now. So I have the age thing to worry about now.

When I say we have done everything we have, I have bought fertility kits off the internet (bad move don't buy anything from the internet), and that clear plan easy fertility computer that has actually had great success not with me though but when you research the reviews I would recommend it to anyone. The computer tracks your cycle and and prove you ovulate which will help the fertility specialist if you go to one. You can get it easily from any drugstore. Please give it a try. Most people say it works within 6 attempts. Right now we are doing the turkey baster trick modified though. It may be too much information and if so I am sorry but I use a push syringe without the needle of course, and then put in a menstrual cup so that I can lay there with nothing coming out for a half hours or so. This has not worked either for us. But right now I am desperate because we have not saved enough for IVF and to even talk to a infertility doctor is about $1000 your first visit (insurance does not cover this for us) The doctors have always said that we had unexplained infertility and that there was no reason for me not to become pregnant but I still have not.

If we ever get the money for IVF I know we will have one shot and it will be our final attempt. Then I will have to give up my dream because adoption is twice the cost of IVF easy and if it took us this long to and we still do not have enough for that then how can we afford to adopt. And i would adopt without hesitation if I could. My dream as is my husbands is to have a baby, but it does not have to be genetically mine.

I am going to post an email I got that helps us cope a little especially around the holidays. I just have to find it. But if you ever want to talk, email me through this site and I will give you my personal information.

Thanks, and Good Luck

Ann

sorry I hit the post button by mistake.

You know... I'm 37. I'm the only one in my family that doesn't have kids. The same with my husband. I honestly can say that the only option that infertile women can fight for it's their rights to procreate. It always have to be with rich people who can afford Invitro but not hard working couples and Health Insurance can't covered! That's enough!