Not going to cheat
I mentioned in another post that at the moment my wife physically can't have sex and what a struggle that's been for us, and for me.
Still struggling, believe it or not, after a couple of days. Today I idly looked at online personals and contemplated an affair, which terrifies me and makes me horrible in some ways. I didn't make contact with anyone and never plan to.
Not sure if I should open up the uncomfortable discussion about seeking out medical help for her to get treated or not. It's important to both of us but where do we go from here?
Here's the other post. It's kind of explicit in a clinical sense so be forewarned.
http://healthy-sex.supportgroups.com/sg/healthy-sex/my-wife-physically-cant-have-sex
I feel your pain. My husband only has sex with me about once every 4 months, when I beg, nag or get mad at him. I feel like I'm at a crossroads between adultery and divorce. Know that part of the reason why you are suffering is that you love her so much. If you didn't love her, you would just divorce or cheat.
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Hi chasethosecars, Question for you. How would you feel if it were you in her position? How would you want to be treated?
Here are a few links below that may be of help to you:
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0624.html
http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/pelvicpain/a/painfulsexualin.htm
http://www.sexwithoutpain.com/
http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com/sym/painful_intercourse.htm
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/guide/female-pain-during-sex