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Thank you for sharing even tho it sometimes may not help you to feel better in writing your thoughts in that moment, it can & will help others out there just to know their not alone in what they are feeling. Follow your heart & gutt instinct it sounds like your SPOT ON & at least you thought through the ramifications of your situation. This could even be a calling for you to assist someone here & help your own feelings too while you come out. Take care of you & please keep sharing.

April

hey I'm sorry you live in an area where it's not acceptable. In college you'll be ok and you're just a few months away. Go to a college in a liberal area and you wont even have to necessarily "come out" just tell people you're a lesbian. you wont have to pretend to be straight because ppl there don't know you so they don't expect you to be the same "straight" girl they knew all these years and they don't know your parents your parents and that way you can make friends that will accept you as you are. the people from high school really wont matter and I know lots of ppl that go to college and suddenly fly out the closet. some people are out in college but don't let the people at home know since they wont accept it plus they have relationships from people in the school or the area since that's where they spend their time and don't necessarily need the ppl at home to know. You can find a way to tell them when the time is right but if you're going to get kicked out the it's clearly not the right time to tell them. Good Luck with college and everything! Soon you'll meet lots of new people that will accept you as you are.

Thank you for your support Rose :) That makes me feel better about this whole situation. I've been worried that I've been building up this whole college change to be more relief than it actually will be but the college I'm going to has a gay/straight alliance I can join and they are pretty vocal about their support for the LGBT community so now its just a matter of waiting.

nooo college will be a huge change! you will be away from home. more people come out. and you wont even really have to come out! just be you and that's it. start of fresh with no lies and that way u will make friends that accept you as you are plus girls that are gay will know you're gay and it would be easier ot meet people don't you think? plus some ppl might not accept you but other will. You'd be shocked how many people come out in college! plus there is so much more freedom. As long as you're going to a school where you know LGBT programs are good and the area isn't like an overly religious area that has a problem with gays and you're in a more liberal area where it's ok I think you will be happy! just be you. it's not liek at home where you might get thrown out or somehting. they wont kick you out of school! nothign will happen to you. some people might not like you but you don't want to be friends with those ppl anyways right? It will be easier to meet other gay ppl and make new friends if you're away from home. Glad you're off to college soon. Time FLIES!!!! just the other day I remember being a freshman and now I'm a jr about to be a senior lol in college! and I even remember being in jr high school and wondering where the time went! you'll see you'll be there soon and all this will be in the past =) Good Luck!

Lys you are on the right track thinking things through before you open your mouth and do it. I can't say either way now or later at which is better for you, but when you get to college it is a whole new ballgame sorta speak. You are going someone where I assume you won't know anybody. This gives you the perfect opportunity to be who YOU want to be. Not what your parents want to you be or your high school classmates. This time you get to chose almost everything and let me tell you from being a member of the gay community there is nothing better than this time in your life. Keep your head up and keep thinking positive and when you need to vent come here and we will help. I know high school age is tough for bullying, etc so do what you need to do for you to get to the next level (college) and start your life who you want to be and how you want others to know you. They will be more open than you might think at college.