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Hi Gaby, How sad that people are treating you this way. They are not your friends. Friends love and accept each other for who they are and treat each other with respect. My daughters have friends who are gay and lesbian. They have friends who are straight. Basically they are friends with people from all walks of life as am I. Maybe setting boundaries would be helpful for you in letting others know that you will not let them treat you any old way they wish to. Speak up for yourself. If they can't treat you nicely then don't have anything to do with them. I know this is tough to do but we are responsible for ourselves and how we let others treat us. You are a human being with feelings and should be treated as such no matter your sexual preference, race, etc. You are more than welcomed here to share with us. We are here for you. ((((hugs))))

beautiful, soulful gabby-

it is a damned shame that our culture is so desensitized when it comes to violence, sex, gender, stereotyping, and cultural slurs. add into that equation of desensitization the ignorance with which our culture views orientation, and you've got a lot of stupid comments being spewed from the mouths of the un/mis-informed.

i'm sorry that people in your life feel it appropriate to talk to you in such a disrespect manner. for the most part, my feeling is that those who love you and are truly your friend wouldn't talk to you in such a manner. those people who choose to speak to you in this disrespectful way aren't worth your time. and when it comes to the familiy members and their ability to perfect the part of jack-ass??? well, although i've had my fair share of that ignorance and verbal spewing, i sadly have no real answer for that. sometimes family is the real *f* word...[haha]

you are worth being treated nicely and respectfully. other people's ignorance is their problem. i'm the pot calling the kettle black, here...b/c i too let the hurtful, ignorant word-vomit of others sting me...

you are NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT a lesser being. it is simply your friend's opinion re: what is sex and what isn't... you have a beautiful soul that shines brightly despite the muck in your life. loneliness ebbs and flows... it will ebb, i promise.

i wish i could do or write something more helpful. please know that i am here, checking on your posts and journals, forging a connection with you.

hugging you with the most uplifting affection,
amy xoxo

well shit... and damned if i didn't spell your name wrong! please, forgive me gaby! xoxoxoxo
ps: will write more later....

Haha it's all right, a lot of people spell my name like that. I'm a feeling a bit more able to open up and share after that last post, that's a weird feeling for me.

oh gaby, my soulful sister---

i DO hope that you can find a stage where you feel like you can open up and share more. the isolation of sexual orientation can be a friggin' killer. you are my heroine for being so open about it all. although admission stamps that target on your back, you will be sooooo ahead of the game as you get older. accepting yourself is SOOOO important.... and soooo colossally difficult. i'm proud of you, oh soulful muse, for being open with who you are. again, you are my heroine.

i have spent a lifetime trying to avoid almost all aspects of who i am. being a mother is about the only thing/title/identity that i have NOT run from. sounds so *beaver cleaver* that being a mom changed my life, so to speak.... i don't mean that i'm a 1950's mom and that cooking and cleaning and wiping asses are my life. what i mean is that forging that connection--- that REAL connection--- with another human, a human that i am untimately responsible for, changed me. it helped me to really see WHO i am; it helped me to REALLY think about the person i want to and can be... running and avoiding are difficult juggling acts while trying to parent 2 young children.

what else can you open up about? how old are you? do you have any gay friends? are you going to any gay events/ functions? is there someone special in your life? please feel free to IGNORE any and all questions you'd rather not answer.

thinking of you, gaby... hoping you're making beautiful music as you navigate your stormy waters.....
amy xoxo

It is horrible that people are not willing to accept things that are different from themselves. I have grown up, luckily, with a family that has taught me it is okay that people are different. No one is wrong because of the things they believe and do, they are normal human beings and should be treated as such.

If your friends can't accept you or treat you badly they aren't really friends. Try to be as outgoing as possible and make new friends who will be accepting of you. Easier said then done i know. If all else fails at least you can say you have tried, but i am sure that someone out there is just waiting to be your friend and you don't know it. Not everyone is afraid of something different than themselves.

If you ever need an ear to listen feel free to message me. I know all about being lonely. I often feel the loneliness myself.

Hey gaby!
Well my parents are homophobes and and still say terrible things to me about my amazing girlfriend. They only see her as gay and nit myself and say hateful things what they ding realize is we hav been together for goin on seven months now and yes I'm gay too and hateful things they say about her hurt me too. Not only because she my everything and I don't want anything thing bad said about her but also cuz if that's wat they feel about her them they feel that way towards me I went through hell with my parents when I first came out but it's slowly gettin better and they allow my girl over now I made a promis toy parents I would not tell anyone I was lesbian and that puts a serious strain on my relation ship because I can't show affection my baby in public we hav to act like best friends not s couple and she is understanding but it's tough on her because she has already came out I want to but can't because my parents won't let me see her anymore if people know. Lol I don't really no what that has to do with your story guess I just needed to tell someone my story. Anyways I'm sure you will find some who is perfect for you love hit me so randomly I never even dreamed of finding this girl the world has a weird way of working but I no eventually it will work out for you too just hang in there and be strong I'm here for ya:)