Life, Loss, and Grieving

Try to be strong, lost. Death is only for the living and is a part of life. I'm 40, but when I was 16 I lost my mother very suddenly...from cancer. Now that I'm older, I'm seeing more and more people I know passing away all around me. As painful as it is, it won't hurt like this forever.
Chin up and onward and upward.

Hi Lost.in.Space, You are not alone. I have lost loved ones in my life that were close to me. I still have my husband and I know how much I love him and how much I would miss him if he were gone. My mom lost my dad after 19 years of marriage. My sister lost her husband after 19 years of marriage. I saw how hard it was on them. I know it hurts and is painful now and you have probably had this said to you already but it does get better with time. Everyone grieves in their own way. It is fresh right now. But you will find a way somehow to go on. You take it one day at a time - one step at a time. Keep sharing with us. We are here for you. I will say a prayer for you. ((((hugs))))

Hey Lost.in.Space, I'm truly sorry to hear about the loss you have had. It really has me thinking a lot about me and my partner, he is currently going through a stem cell transplant to overcome cancer (Hodgkin's Lymphoma). We are both 26, I'm scared and I'm sure I'm feeling a lot like you had once, I don't know what I would do without him. Stupid cancer. A few things that have helped me get through this and might help you also is to stay actively engaged in supporting others and finding ways to prevent others from suffering from the same disease. I have been training to run in the lymphoma marathon that supports cancer research. Just knowing that you are doing something, anything that might help others in the slightest bit really keeps me staying positive. This process has been very painful and I will be there for you if you need anything, remember that there are a lot of us out there to give you the love and support you need to get through this. I know I don't know you personally but we have shared a slightly similar experience and that makes us brothers, sometimes letting it all out online can really help the grieving process to begin and eventually end.

Thanks for the posts, It was a long road through the cancer, but my partner had a type that had a very high mortality rate. We kept her alive for 3 years, which her Oncologist told me, was more than anyone could have done. She's not suffering anymore, and that does count for something, but the pain of losing my soulmate is so raw and overwhelming still, and probably will be for a long time. I am almost 29, most people don't go through this stuff until they are 30 yrs older than me. Cancer is a nasty messy and unforgiving bastard. But despite that, there are breakthroughs that I know helped my partner live longer, and suffer less, it just wasn't enough in our case. And that fact, makes me feel sometimes that I didn't do enough, and that my efforts weren't good enough, which they weren't. Its been about 5 weeks, and I still get nightmares, but I am trying very hard to take steps to not go insane from the grief. Its a big hole to dig out of. But its getting easier to make the effort to dig my way out. Sort of.