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Why don't they understand?

I'm bi and have been out with select friends at school since 9th grade. Some even found enough trust to come out to me! I want to be honest with my whole family about me, but my father's side are a bunch of stereotypical homophobic rednecks. my mom's side is ok with that kind of thing but they don't think I'm old enough to know what I want or to know what love is. it makes me mad that they wont be able to accept this whole side of me.

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By bluidkiti on Mon, 06-14-10, 09:53

Hi TheGurlNextDoor, If you don't mind, how old are you? People from older generations may not be as understanding and as accepting as those who are closer to your own age because of the difference in times, backgrounds, raising, and so on. Whether they accept you or not, you are who you are. Just make sure to keep your side of the street clean. It's up to you who you tell, then it is up to them what they do with it. Keep sharing. We are here for you. ((((hugs))))

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By TheGurlNextDoor on Mon, 06-14-10, 13:16

I'm going on 16. Most of my friends have been really acepting, except for one. My mom had me late and she's in her late 40s. it's not even her that's going to be difficult to tell, it's my father's side. they're stereotypical rednecks. It makes no sense to me. People are people, right?

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By Shallovercome on Mon, 06-14-10, 17:58

Your mother is probably right ...your young and you may not know exactly...i was your age and had feelings for other girls...but then later on found out that a man was more pleasing. i had a friend who was with a women for about six years ...got seperated and now is happily married with a man and has one child.Honestly hun .That can wait ...find out who you are and if you go to church ...find out who God is about. Look for the truth and not what you think is the truth.
I can honestly say...been there done that.

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By waterfall on Sun, 06-20-10, 20:45

Hey, sorry, I am just know reading this post, but anyway, I totally get how parents are not willing to accept part of your personality. There is alot about me that my parents were not willing to accept, me being left-handed (Ridiculous, right?), not being muslim, not being more interested in science and medicine. Whatever. In my case, to deny part of me, was to die alittle, not completely, just alittle, which, in my opinion, is worse than dying all the way. My parents are older now, and so. . . they have given up the fight to change me. And oh, by the way, my personality, my likes and dislikes have not changed much over the years. (I don't watch cartoons anymore, but you get the idea.) You will find your strength and ability to stand your ground. Just give it some time.

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