I'm addicted to shopping

I am sorry to hear what is going on but I feel like what you are going through is what I went through with drugs. It was my release...the place I always went to...usually by myself. It seems like there is a reason you always turn to shopping. I know how hard it can be to stop something like this.

I think it is great that you have included your husband in this because I am assuming he cares and he will help. It is also great that you are going to a counselor because a lot of the times the root of the issue is deep inside of us.

I know why I was always high. I hated where I was in life and I was just masking the inevitable.

sounds like your on the right track with theorapy, but its certainly a real concern

Thank you for your kind words....I can use all the kindness I can get. My husband cares about me but cannot handle the overwhelming amount of debt I've accumulated and wants a separation. I can't say that I blame him. he wants to continue with counseling and truly hopes I can be helped, but he can't bear to stay with me...all I can do is work on myself and hope the rest works out.

Hi Nerissa
You seem to be a very careing person, and it is a shame that your husband is having difficukty in accepting this and move on.
Is bankruptcy an option??
It seems if your relationship is good otherwise, well I hope you can work things out. Money truely is root of all evil.

I too, shop for emotional reasons, and I can relate to those "deprivation issues". God has seen fit to cure me of shopping addiction by taking my credit cards (bankruptcy) and curtailing my income. So no money and no credit will really motivate a person to stop shopping.

The counselor I've been seeing has brought things out in me I had no idea about. My entire life I have never felt truly loved, even though many say they love me, I couldn't believe it. The only person that I really felt was genuine in his love of me and absolutely cherished me was my father. He died ten years ago, which is just about the time I really started becoming addicted to shopping. Most of my big shopping was done at Christmas time...I was always the one getting everyone the "best" xmas gifts.....in my mind I felt that if I gave everyone awesome presents they would love me, even my kids...warped thinking I realize now....so somehow losing my father took something away that I tried to fulfill with shopping....what a mess I am!
I shredded all my cards and am in the process of seeing if I can refinance my house (will depend what it appraises for) to help pay off the cards...
My husband has moved out and I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself, trying to snap out of it.

Hi Nerissa

I'm wondering if you feel the others don't love you is because they can not fill your dads shoes and show you the committment in the same way dad did.
Its hard to fill other peoples shoes, they probly do love you they just have a different way of showing it.
I have found everyone has their own set of values and their own way of showing things.
I have had difficulty with the same issues, as I was raised in a very large familey and poor. so I became a horder, and a shop a holic. It is certainly a difficult habit to break for sure. I had to file bankrupcy myself.
sorry for your hard times.

I work for a TV host who is trying to help people with shopping addictions. If you want to share your story and take the first step on the road to recovery, please email me at maury.addict@gmail.com.

im sorry to hear your going thru so much! i have alot going on to and i as well have a problem shopping when im upset or stressed out! i will be praying for you! keep your head up!

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