the divorced child

Hi strawberryfields21, From what you shared you did say your mother gathered you and your brother and talked with you and wanted your opinion. Did you tell her your opinion? I feel family counseling may be good for all of you and/or a family meeting including your dad to discuss everything. If you don't understand why your mother and father are getting back together, what's going on or have a problem with it then you need to tell them and ask them about it.

Have you ever had a disagreement with a friend? You and your friend stopped talking to each other? Then you made amends and decided to be friends again?

People split up and people forgive, make up and get back together. We may not always like what others say, think or do but everyone has to live their own lives.

Why do you feel the way you do towards your dad?

Please keep sharing. We are here for you. ((((hugs))))

thankyou. the last comment about fighting with a friend really hit home, but its not like my father and i are 'friends' I guess my father and I really never got along very well.

yes, my mother did gather us together to speak about the situation and she asked for my opinion. She has also done this several times before, and everytime i have shared my feelings, she yells at me because 'what i want is not what will happen.' I just need more time, but now my father is moving back in and my mom didnt consult any of us. she actually said that her feelings were more important. i just need time. 3 weeks isnt enough.

My mom, my dad, my brother and I are about to attend a group counseling class. I have seen the person for a private counseling and my parents have gone to marriage counseling 2 times. my brother has yet to see him. I didnt feel any better about anything after i saw him,and i didnt really like him all that much. I like the idea of counseling, but not with this guy. my mom really likes him, so i will go for her, but i feel like i need some real help from someone who can actually help me.

yes, the friends thing did help alot, but my father isnt a friend. he's my father. He left my home and decided he wanted to divorce my mother. it may be just me, but i i think thats bigger than a fight at school with one of my friends. its life altering, and thats not.

I feel like theres somthing my mom is leaving out when she tells me about things. Something that could change my opinion about things, but she still isnt telling me. I hear her on the phone at night talking about things ive never heard of. I cant get it all, but it seems like theres somthing. I want to know the truth. Im only 14, but im mature for my age.

thankyou so much for your response, it helped so much more than you can imagine.