5 months pregnant and husbands left!

Hi Skye74, I am so very sorry for your situation. Main thing right now is to focus on you and your baby. Take care of you and your child. Some how you will make a way for you and your child. Just take it one day at a time. Your husband seriously needs some help. But he is going to have to be willing to get help for himself. Keep sharing with us. We are here for you. I will say a prayer for you. ((((hugs))))

Hello you are not alone, my husband left me and our four children on Christmas Day. At times i feel like i don't wanna go another day without him. I'm seven months pregnant. I don't know what to do from day to day. I am sick. I need help. I need someone to talk to. I don't know what to do.

from what you described it seems like a blessing in disguse that he should be out of your life. Nobody has the right to hit you! He was abusive and mistreated you. You had ivf and want a baby so keep it and raise it and it will bring you happiness. it will be hard to be a single mom but your baby will love you and you will love it. you've tried so hard to get pregnant and it took with ivf so don't let this jerk take that good thing away from you! He seems like a real jerk and you should be glad to get rid of him. He clearly didn't care if he'd tell you te get an abortion after you tried so hard for a baby. It will be harder as a single mom but not impossible! There are tons of single mothers out there that raise great kids! you'll be a great mom and without him in the picture you'll be able to find a better man, one that will love you and won't hit you or verbally/emotionally abuse you! do you have parents, siblings or anyone that will help you with the baby?

Dear Skye74, I know what it feels like to love an abusive person. My husband (married for five, together for sixteen) has never hit me, but is very abusive with his words and and actions and makes me feel like all of the worlds problems are of my fault. I can never do right in his eyes, but if you asked him that he would probably praise me up one side and down the other and play stupid. Over the past sixteen years he has done so many things to truly hurt me, but the good times always outweighed the bad. We argued like crazy when I was pregnant. I slept in the guest room for a several weeks one time during my pregnancy because I swore I was done and wasn't going to fight anymore. Well, we're still married and maybe finally splitting for good this time. The point of me telling you all of this is because even though you and your husband may love each other, hateful actions scar a relationship and you can never take back your words, they hurt as much as being hit, much like being told to have an abortion Because there is so much hurt, I am so angry when we start to argue about anything that I just fly off the handle. My son of four and half sees that and I don't like it. Its an ugly viscious circle and I think I'm finally done with it. I see you strangly going down the same path and I will tell you it is no fun. Tears are streaming down my face right now thinking about how I (we) might have already negatively affected our child from all the hatred within our marriage. Focus on you and your baby. I know its hard, but women are much stronger than men in so many ways. Everything will be alright and an soon as you look into your baby's eyes, nothing else will matter- trust me on this.

AKM my heart goes out to you & as a parent I can relate to that guilt feeling when one directly/indirectly brings something into others lives without really being aware of the impact it can have years later for them. Keep talking with us & sharing your experiences.

Take care of you.

April